Bigamy

[grannieannie]

A man in Tacoma Washington has been charged with bigamy and may be fined $10k if found guilty.

Do you think bigamy should be a crime these days.

Lots of people don't wait to get a divorce before living with someone else....they may not try to formalise the second relationship before they get a divorce from the first marriage, but they still live as husband and wife in the second relationship....it just can't officially be called a marriage, thus cannot be called... bigamy !!

What are your thoughts.....

 

[Nighthawk]

It feels like there are too many people these days who are in love with the idea of being in love, to the point where, once the 'honeymoon period' wears off it's surprising that it takes a fair bit of effort, compromise and just plain old work to keep a relationship going.
I know a few people who visualise an ideal, believe that 'love is easy'. To a degree that's right; love in itself is simplistic. Relationships are not, and they all have their rocky patches. I think the quickie marriages prevalent these days are a result of this belief that a loving relationship is 'easy', or people in love with the idea of marriage, like formalising the relationship is going to fix everything. This tends to lead to relationship hopping, where people will try to recapture that spark rather than reignite the embers.
True bigamy, in and of itself, where one marries two people with the intent of carrying on a romantic relationship with two people at the same time does strike me as a little greedy, but at the same time there are consenting groups of adults who are quite happy to carry on a polygamous relationship within their group... for these people I don't see the problem, if all are consenting and happy with the arrangement. Where there is one person leading two others astray however, that is wrong.
There are some that argue that people are not monogamous by nature, if that is the case then there is no real need for marriage for those people, and it shouldn't be difficult for them to maintain open relationships; there's someone (or some people as the case may be) for everyone out there.
I often find that people who feel the need to lie and sneak when it comes to love aren't in fact looking for love or requiring it, they are requiring a bolster to a shredded ego and very low self-esteem, and so look for quantity rather than quality.
I don't know. My rule is: As long as it's between consenting adults then I'm not much fussed on what goes on in someone else's house. It's really none of my business. If someone's getting hurt, yes, sometimes I feel the need to throw my 2c in the mix and dash off before I get dragged into the melee P)
Personally I'm happily married, I don't need any more than I have. Bloody hell, my husband's enough work sometimes as it is! I don't think I'd have the time or energy for any more, but if they like they can do my dishes

 

[Fuscus]

The main (and most horrible) punishment of bigamy is two mother-in-laws! Any legal sanction pales to insignificance.

 

[Wrightpython]

I could not think of anything worse, two woman nagging that the mice smell or the rats are eating to much or the electricty for the snakes, bigamy is only there to stop men being stupid

 

[Stompsy]

I think nighthawk hit the nail right on the head. It works for some people and as long as all parties concerned are happy then why should anyone interfere?

 

[Bel03]

Id love to find my partner another few wives......
1 for washing
1 for cooking
1 for dishes.......you get the idea!!

Honestly though, i agree with above, it isnt really anyone's business what other people do, not including cult like relationships where woman have no say, but for example i know alot of swingers, & while it isnt something im into, it seems to work for them!

 

[Nighthawk]

The main (and most horrible) punishment of bigamy is two mother-in-laws! Any legal sanction pales to insignificance.

What is this thing with in-laws? Honestly... it it simply social conditioning? Because I've always got along with mine really well. I know you're just kidding Fuscus, but I hear it a lot and most are dead serious.

 

[PMyers]

What is this thing with in-laws? Honestly... it it simply social conditioning? Because I've always got along with mine really well. I know you're just kidding Fuscus, but I hear it a lot and most are dead serious.

I like one of them... don't think much of the other two though :lol:

 

[FAY]

The main (and most horrible) punishment of bigamy is two mother-in-laws! Any legal sanction pales to insignificance.

Bhahahahahaha...that def would be more than enough punishment.

Oh and also if it was OK for the female to do the same......

 

[Fuscus]

What is this thing with in-laws?

I call it the taxi driver syndrome but it applies to almost any profession or "type" of person.
There are thousands of taxi drivers out there, most are good, reasonably courteous drivers but they are not the ones you notice. Its the impatient sods who cuts you off, jumps a red-light or does any one of a thousands infractions that make the news and are the ones you remember. Soon you tar them all with the same brush. Same with Mother-in-laws, if someone gets a bad one, they complain and complain and complain while ones with good relations limit their response to the occasional "'I've always got along with mine really well."

I know you're just kidding Fuscus

I am. I have to admit I haven't met my mother-in-law yet as she lives in another country but my wife has warned me against it. My wife has met my mother once who she described as a "Dotty old Greek lady" which is a good description except for the Greek part.

 

[Nighthawk]

Interesting. I heard of a social conditioning exercise in the power of authority which involved a random guy in a white coat, a couple of electrified rods and varying degrees of electric shock treatment for no good reason. It's amazing the sway social precendence has isn't it?
It's few and far between where I hear about a good in-law relationship, and that's a crying shame really. Both of my in-laws I consider to be family, as well as good friends. We've had our moments, but nothing that would really justify crying 'crazy in-laws!!'
It just seems that many people seem to go into a marriage or a relationship expecting their partner's parents to be terrifying, crazy, ogrish people. It's sad; just imagine the amount of friendships lost due to a stupid stereotype. I'm glad my mother raised me to take people as they are and not as I expect them to be.

 

[-Katana-]

Polygamy, polyandry, polyamoury, homosexuality...who the hell cares what consenting adults do in the privacy of their own homes.
Governments and religion have got to stop sticking their noses into other peoples bedrooms. Pack of perverts need to get a life.