War of the Ex Part 2

[cwarren72]

Hi guys and Gals and sorry just getting some more crap off my shoulders hope you all don't mind? I Called the Ex tonight to tell het that I wasn't sending our daughter down for holidays as she told my daughter not to tell me that she was planning on keeping her. NOT HAPPY JAN, man and she was less happy when I told her that I had started custody proceedings. I have been getting myself ready all week to make that call. Man my head is pounding and my guts feels like it is about to explode !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Springherp]

Good luck with it all man, I can't imagine what your going through but just keep your chin up!

 

[Simon_Archibald]

Don't send your daughter to school...she may not come back :-( Get her principal to send work home from the teacher(s). Sounds silly and drastic, but I only suggest this if your ex is the type of person that would do that. This has happened to many of the kids I work with at a few schools and one of the girls in our class is currently off school for fear the mother will pinch her.

If this is not the case with you, I'm sorry I made you panic.

Simon Archibald

 

[cwarren72]

Good suggestion actually. I can't keep her at home I don't think it is fair on her but the School she goes to is really good in that I will let them know tomorrow and they will make sure she is supervised at all times. She doesn't want to go back with her mum anyway so I am lucky in that sense.

 

[Simon_Archibald]

Col,
That's all well and good, and I'm sure the school would love to help but if her mother turns up and demands she goes home, they cannot stop her...even if she was under suspicion of something. Sad but true. I see this sort of stuff everyday and not only do good parents like you suffer, so do the kids as you said...Hope it goes well for you.

Simon Archibald

 

[Acanthophis]

What a ****ing slut mate, I hope you win. Bitches like that dont deserve to ****ing live.

Im sorry, jsut this happened to my bro recently

good luck mate

 

[jimmy_the_kid]

not good man i dont like these messy diforces not that ive had one yet myslf but in my opinion most kids caught in one like urs ussaly lose alot of respect for there parents im not sure how old ur littl one is but when my mum and dad split my sister got extremly angry with both of them and still are cause they fought ova her (i wasnt good enough to be fought over lol) and my sister wasnt alloud to see my dad for 2 years as long as the child is alloud to spend equal amounts of time with each parrents it can still remain a happy family sorta and i know its not as simple as that all the times but thats just my opinion

 

[RAZZA]

Simon is right col.. we have been through this.. miss magical's daughter from her first relationship was grabbed from pre-school by her father..there was nothing they could do as he is her father and there was not court orders to the contary, we had to agree to some of his terms or we would not see her again until it went to court.. which was another 2 or so years... so my advice to you mate is cover your bases.. sems silly but it can and does happen, all the need is advice from someone that this can be done( like he did) and they act on it....

cheers

 

[Miss_Magickal]

Even a court order might not stop her.........razza didnt tell you about the last lot of holidays...........He has tried to take her twice all up.........as simon said keeping her home is the only way you can assure her safety.........I rang my solicitor and he was the one who suggested that i pick my girl up from school and not let her out of my sight until it was all sorted.............the school was at a loss as to what to do...........

My advice to you is.............. find someone who can look after your daughter while you cant be there, someone like your parents or a trusted friend...............then dont let her out of your sight when you do get her back............If her mum gets her then there is no way you are going to get her back until you go to court............unless you have an existing court order the police wont touch it at all............unless you can prove beyond all reasonable doubt that her moral or physical welfare is at stake.........and that is extremely hard to prove..................

If you want to get more info from me then pm me or email [email protected]...........

I am by no means an expert but i am still dealing with his and his mums **** two years after the court case and will be doing so until either he or i dies of old age...............

Good luck anyway

 

[Nome]

Hey Colin,

I'm really sorry to hear that. It's an awful situation for both you and your daughter. I think it's great you can feel you can vent on here, and it's great that there are so many of us, that you will usually find someone who has been through it as well who can help, like Dave and Caz.

Thinking of you, mate. And good luck with it all, keep us posted on how things go.

Kind regards,
Nome.

 

[dobermanmick]

Sorry to hear about it col

I am not in a position to know what you are going through as i have not been involved in anything like this

Keep your chin up and i hope it works out for you mate
Cheers mick

 

[ether]

Do you think you have a good chance of getting custody? Father these days always seem to get hard done by, even though they have nothing wrong. Although this is not always the case. Although i am not a father, i see time after time at my school kids who's parents have divored but they ALWAYS spend much more time woth their mothers, why the hell is this??

I throughly support the guy who climbed up onto the Queens balcony to protest about these issues!, and hope everything goes really well for you cwarren..

Regards Alex

 

[cwarren72]

The problem is that it is an inbuilt thing into all of us that society assumes that the mothers are more compationate, but unfortunately this isn't always the case. My daughter has been through a bit of crap in her short life with her mum and it has left a few emotional problems already. I truly believe in my heart that I am doing the right thing and I ampositive that once all the facts come to light the courts will (fingers crossed) agree with me. There are police reports and the like which will be tendered as evidence but one things I am sure of is that I will not let her be used as a pawn through the whole ordeal. Any thanks again all