Hi David
Ive dealt with Funnel Webs in the past, if only A robustus. They are highly venomous animals but not dangerous in my opinion unless your a half wit. The milking scenario isnt even relavent to the conversation as no one keeping these animals in a recreational sense will be milking them and putting themself in harms way. Obviously regular close contact is going to increase the chances of being bitten but its the same for any venomous animal.
At no time did i recommend people keep them as pets, but merely mentioned 2 more suitable species if he was going to try. I dont think everyone should be keeping them, just as i dont think everyone should be able to deal with venomous snakes. You have to put things into perspective, its a spider in an enclosure. The only time you are at risk is while putting your hands into the enclosure, this in itself does not need to be done regularly or at all with the right tools and some common sense.
Ultimately i didnt ask for your advice, you chose to give it. Theres obviously a difference of opinion and that isnt going to change. True, i may not have had as much experience as you 'oh great one' but that doesnt alter whats plain to see.
These ARE extremely dangerous spiders, and you don't have to take my word for it, anyone with real experience working with them will tell you so as well.
Yes, they are extremely dangerous if you get bitten. The chances of which are low providing you know the animal is there to start with and arent showing off your new spider to your buddies. Careful and minimal handling is all it takes. Ive kept Atrax, Missulena, Aname, Chenistonia etc. since i was a kid and havent been bitten by a captive animal yet.
All that said, they arent for everyone and if your looking to keep them to compensate for the size of your manhood look elsewhere.
Cheers
Jordan