there are a select few girls that don't care all that much about whether a fella is smoking hot or not, its how he treats her as a person that matters....treat a girl right and you'll win her heart forever
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The operative words there being 'select few'.
Besides, why is it up to the guy to 'treat the girl right'? It's a two way street. Why doesn't anyone ever suggest the girl must treat the guy right?
I find gender and relationships to be quite absurd.
U should sit down and watch Shrek one day....its one of my fave kids movies lol because its so true! looks arent everything
Unfortunately, once again, I beg to differ.
Gender, IMO, is largely the result of selection pressures surrounding mate selection and associated sexual dimorphism. There's a wealth of evidence to suggest it's largely innate / hard wired (environment also plays a part too, of course).
As a result, a lot (most?) of people are just really really shallow / superficial. And as a result, I think it's fair to say (even if pessimistic) most people don't rise above these selection pressures and are content with settling on a partner just based on physical looks. A quick glance at night life and modernised courtship shows this.
Not to mention the many abusive relationships myself and others have come across where you wonder how the hell the relationship keeps on going.
Ever seen couples that seem to share nothing in common except for a sexual/physical connection/chemistry? (It's all too common, I think).
I know it's a pessimistic view to hold, but hey, that's where the science is largely pointing, and there's really no point deluding ourselves.
It's a view that helps to weed out the fake from the real. Whilst it does make things harder, why settle for anything less than a meaningful relationship?
Why quickly jump into a relationship at the first given chance if it's likely to be little more than a lie?
(For the record, I was single until 24 years old).