Some people have it so easy....

[Black.Rabbit]

This is more of a rant.. so apologies as I can probably guess that it may offend some.

Occasionally I get so frustrated about how easy some people have it. This mainly has to do with the people I go to uni with. The majority of whom, still live at home. Where everything is done for them, their dinner is cooked, their washing is done, they live rent free, rooms cleaned, beds made, lunches packed, uni paid for... I'm talking people in their mid 20's and 30's.

I guess I am a little cynical as I left home 9 years ago (I'm 24). I am, and always have been fairly independent. Now I raise a child on my own, the house is 100% my responsibility, I am at uni full time and just about to start casual work on top of that.

But seriously.... I don't think I will ever grasp why people don't strive for independence. Sure it's hard, but how are people my age and beyond, ever expected to learn for themselves? How will they survive on their own when mummy or daddy are still doing everything for them into their mid 20's and 30's?

I recently (god knows why) dated a guy who was in his early 30's and had never left home with no valid reason as to why. Then had the tenacity to tell me I was like a baby who had not even started to live life yet. Strange coming from a guy whose mum wouldn't even let him catch the train at night!

Am I alone in thinking that it is somewhat unacceptable for someone to have everything done for them and still live at home by a certain age?

And in saying that, I completely understand there are circumstances for some people, such as illness, financial trouble etc... I am referring to those who are plain lazy or have it way too good at home.


I bet I am going to regret starting this thread later... oh well...

 

[Beard]

I agree with you 100%.

 

[Recharge]

first world problems! lol each to their own, I'm sure in some part of your mind you're just jealous that they have it so damn easy, and they do, but, good luck to them!
you've made it on your own, be happy in yourself
I didn't leave home till I was 24! (funny enough, that's about a month before I lost my virginity too heh, go figure eh?) you really can't judge someone else's life to your own, even though we ALL do it.

smile and be happy you are who you are

 

[Bel03]

I am the same as you, have been out of home since i was 15 & had my daughter when i was 17, i grew up real fast, & have always been independent. What i have noticed lately is that people from as young as 3yr old to 23yr old.......so many are brats!! Parents are creating these brats who think the world owes them something!! Yes, letting them live at home, on the dole, rent free, meals prepared etc is apart of that, but it is the 3yrs olds literally 'ruling the roost' that really really irritates me!! My children are taught that while yes they have an important place in the world, so does the next kid, & they need to work for things they want!! I am not sure i could put an age limit on when my kids leave home........although i do hope they stay around longer then i did!!

 

[Defective]

ok so i'm slightly offended but am also with you....i'm 24 just about to move to my dads in the stix, but i am still at mums i help around the house, pay board, pay a 3rd of the electricity bill, the entire phone bill, half car rego and servicing.... but i also have multiple medical conditions that have put a bucketload of restrictions on my life. having cognitive difficulties since a young age has made it hard for mum to let me go, if i had my way i'd have left home at 18......circumstances have everything to do with why people don't leave home.

you can't possibly know that they don't pay for uni...they may be on FEE-HELP, you don't know that they don't pay board or contribute to bills....as frustrating as it is; by all means you are judging the book by it's cover....how about opening it up and reading that book! you may find that life isn't as peachy as they portray....the home situation may not be ideal...you just never know.

and can i just add....i have been on Newstart since 08 and am about to apply for disability support pension....

 

[Black.Rabbit]

you can't possibly know that they don't pay for uni...they may be on FEE-HELP, you don't know that they don't pay board or contribute to bills....as frustrating as it is; by all means you are judging the book by it's cover....how about opening it up and reading that book! you may find that life isn't as peachy as they portray....the home situation may not be ideal...you just never know.

I've known these people well for a few years... I only know what they and some of their parents tell me, which over the years is quite a lot...

Like I said I know there are people in circumstances due to health, money, family issues etc... I am mainly ranting on about those who take it for granted or simply lazy.


Recharge: In no part of my mind am I just jealous... perhaps a little envious that no one is going to cook me dinner tonight or fold mount washmore for me lol

 

[CrystalMoon]

I left home at 17 got myself in and out of the ***** many a time, my life was hard and exciting I would not change one bit as it has made me who I am today(Zena warrior Princess/ohhh oops thats in my mind :shock: I am still on flu meds rofl) I feel we do our children a dis service in moddy coddling them however I will never ask my Daughter to move out she will need to contribute etc but my home is her home now and forever. live and let live I say Good on you for being strong and independent

 

[phantomreptiles]

Hmmm I sorta agree. You said you are starting a casual job soon, but who has been paying for everything up until now?
I would love to go to uni, but I not eligible for any handout from the government. If I lose my job tomorrow the Australian government will do nothing to help me, though they are happy to take my tax. I appreciate it must be hard being a single mother and yes it can be frustrating seeing those at home getting it easy, but that really is their and their parents choice.
If I could live at home and get my meals cooked, my washing done and no rent to pay. I would love to, well until my parents drove me batty
Instead I work 70hrs+ a week paying my own bills, supporting myself, I left home at 18 after I finished school, then I did further study at my own cost, I have never received a handout from the government. In fact I lost my job a number of years ago (brought out & they didn't want to keep the staff), I survived because I had enough in my savings to pay my rent until I got another job, it was very hard and stressful. I could of done with assistance, but because I am a kiwi, arrived after the immigration laws changed in 2001 and my job is not recognised, I am considered a temporary citizen. So in the nine years I have been here I have paid near on $100,000 in tax, can actually speak English, but no still a temporary citizen. Sorry to the op for going slightly ot.
And to those that say if you don't like it leave...sure if I can take my reptiles with me....
I would never date someone still living at home and certainly think it's a little odd if you are still there once you are in your thirties - but hey people think I am odd for having pythons. Each to their own

 

[AmandaD]

I guess some people have it hard different ways, ive been paying board since I was 14 & 9 months. I was planning to move to Brisbane once I turned 18, 1 week before my 18[SUP]th[/SUP], my step father went missing and left my mum being the only financial support for running the house. Not only that, without knowing, he had rocked up 30k of bills on their joint account (might I add, its not like my step father wasn’t around for a while, he was a very trusted man and was with my mum for 15 years) After this my brothers and I thought it was suitable to stay at home and help her pay bills & debt.
After bullying my little sister didn’t want to attend our public school so we sent her to a private school. This means, together (I earn quite a lot more than my mother) we split rent, electricity, gas, schooling, anything my little sister needs, maintenance to the house & the large debt my step father left. Plus I pay for all things related to the animals.
I may live at home but I tell you right now I struggle as well, whether it be with bills or just worrying if the food is on the table.
Weirdly enough, majority of my friends are from wealthy families and my ex boyfriend was from a house where he had a sauna in his ensuite and mummy & daddy gave him 10k for his 21[SUP]st [/SUP]. I really do see that these people seem to whinge a lot, one girl in particular is whinging that her mum is making her pay $50 board a week even though the mother takes her clothes shopping pretty much every second day and they buy her anything they want.
And with that being said, i will not be moving until my mother doesnt need me anymore

 

[tarafritz2011]

I guess it depends on your cirumstances.

I'm about to turn 20 (still considerably young) and still live at home, but I work full time and study at university - so I don't consider myself to have it that easy.
I cook, clean, do my own washing, pay board, look after my animals, am responsible for looking after my car etc...
So yes there is an aspect of living at home that is "easy" as I know I have some backup when needed.. but I also have alot of independance too.

I do agree with you though - its the people who dont work, dont study and just lounge around all day and THEN complain about how hard they have it.. those are the ones that drive me nuts! /cough cough - MANY of my friends haha

 

[Black.Rabbit]

Hmmm I sorta agree. You said you are starting a casual job soon, but who has been paying for everything up until now?

I worked full time from ages 15-18 and never once claimed a benefit in that time. The only reason I am at uni is so I can have a guaranteed career which would mean I would never ever have to rely on Centrelink payments ever again. In saying that, the only reason I have ever accepted payments is to sufficiently support my child. Also, I received a small insurance payout which was given to my son and I after my husband passed away 3 years ago.

 

[tarafritz2011]

I worked full time from ages 15-18 and never once claimed a benefit in that time. The only reason I am at uni is so I can have a guaranteed career which would mean I would never ever have to rely on Centrelink payments ever again. In saying that, the only reason I have ever accepted payments is to sufficiently support my child. Also, I received a small insurance payout which was given to my son and I after my husband passed away 3 years ago.

That's sad to hear it sounds like you are a tough woman

 

[Black.Rabbit]

That's sad to hear it sounds like you are a tough woman

Not tough, just resilient... not that resilience is always a good thing

 

[littlemay]

I understand what you are saying, but i can't resent people for simply living the life they have been dealt. For some people at university, independent living is simply out of the question; trying to maintain an honours-worthy GPA in a field such as engineering or med is incredibly difficult and time consuming on it's own without finding the time and energy to work enough to provide for yourself. If you have it good at home, why wouldn't you stay if moving out could compromise the outcome of your degree? I'm sure there are some people out there who may think you have it relatively easy, but it's not as if you're in any way at fault because of this.

 

[DarwinBrianT]

So have I read this right ? You are up set that some people have it easer then you? ***!? Get over it. Life is not fair.

 

[grannieannie]

I never went to uni....wasn't bright enough....never even considered it.....however, I started working in an office at 16 and the rule in our house was..... a third .... meaning....we paid a third of our wage in board, banked a third and the other third was for us to spend as we wished. By the time I was 24 I was married with 2 babies.

If parents of uni kids want to let them laze around the house and do nothing....more fools them. I would at least be demanding they help with housework, clean their room etc. Who can blame a kid for taking advantage of soft parents. But does that mean they will always have an easy life and not learn hard lessons....no....we don't know what lies ahead of us in years to come. These "lazy spoilt" uni kids might turn out to be brilliant in their chosen careers and professions. Life is not fair or the same for everyone, we just have to do the best with the choices we've made....forced upon us or not....and not think or worry too much about others and what their circumstances are.

 

[Snowman]

Your life is easy compared to others in the world it's all relative.

 

[mad_at_arms]

So have I read this right ? You are up set that some people have it easer then you? ***!? Get over it.
Life is not fair.

I think the point is more about those that take the easy way, still suckling the parents money teat but have the audacity to think they have a fair grasp on living in the "real" world.

 

[waruikazi]

first world problems! lol each to their own, I'm sure in some part of your mind you're just jealous that they have it so damn easy, and they do, but, good luck to them!
you've made it on your own, be happy in yourself
I didn't leave home till I was 24! (funny enough, that's about a month before I lost my virginity too heh, go figure eh?) you really can't judge someone else's life to your own, even though we ALL do it.

smile and be happy you are who you are

Put ten bucks on that being the topic of Grannieannies next thread... :lol:

 

[DarwinBrianT]

Your life is easy compared to others in the world it's all relative.

Exactly right! End of story.