Toilet training!!!!

[Sezzzzzzzzz]

hi all mums and dads!

Please give me some tips on toilet training.... i have done star charts, rewards all the usual... PLEASE HELP!!! SICK OF NAPPIES!!!

 

[Bel03]

I just posted in the 'hijacked' thread But basically she will make the change when she is ready, you can keep trying positive reinforcement but at the end of the day, its her call. She wont start school still in nappies though, so rest assured, it will happen!

 

[Beard]

How old is the little one? With my daughter it was constant reminders, enforced toilet time and changing wet clothes. It didn't take too long for her to realise when she needed the toilet for either motion.

 

[Black.Rabbit]

It's honestly best to just wait until they're ready. If they're not ready then it could just drag out over months with no success... if they are ready it's usually a much easier and quicker process.

I first tried when my son was 2 and it was a nightmare. I then waited until he was 3 1/2 and he had it all sorted out within a week.

Don't go buying the 'nappy training pants' either, they're just more expensive and uncomfortable versions of nappies.

Stairway to the toilet is another one to try... you can buy books for them about going to the toilet as well. Books near the toilet is useful for when they want to sit for a while,if you're using a potty, sit it in front of the TV (probably a terrible parenting strategy, but they usually stay).

I have to admit. My sons daycare did most of the work cause he was there 5 days a week at the time.

 

[noved]

firstly mum and dad have to relax about the whole thing kids feed of emotions they absorb them like a sponge.when your little one happens to go in a nappy or floor or anywhere else but toilet don't make a big deal out of it just clean up your little one like there was nothing to it dont even try to explain to them what there supposed to do,dont make a fuss what so ever, by simple obsevation you will know when they are about to go some of the time that's when you try to get them to the toilet and when they finally do go that's when you make a big deal sing dance, call everyone else to have a look,dont even flush untill the other half comes home from work so your little one can show them...

 

[Dragonwolf]

How old is your little one NTLS?

The other posters have the right idea though - anything before 2yrs old is mostly "timing", children all develop at their own pace and when the concept clicks in their head it'll be all stations go.
Here's some ideas from me (who does this day in day out lol)
- Summer is the best time to try.
- make sure they are ready - removing clothing, indicating wetness or soil, verbalising.
- try to be sure they understand at least some of the concept.
- encourage but don't make it into too much of a reward system (minis will fleece you if they can lol)
- make the toilet experience pleasant and calm but not "over the top" exciting (I know it is frustrating)
- make the nappy change as boring as possible - no conversation, little eye contact, quickly over. I have found that if they're seeking attention/interaction/ one on one time then nappy time can be a great opportunity so remove the incentive.
- replace the attention/interaction/one on one with another non training activity.
- role model (as embarrassing as that may be)

Good luck and like Bel said.... nobody started school in nappies.

 

[Nighthawk]

We did half-hour reminders, didn't overreact if she had an accident and stayed consistant. Our daughter was pretty good to toilet-train though, she began to show an interest at about 1 and never looked back. My son on the other hand is proving to be a little trickier, so I'll be keeping an eye on some tips here too

 

[Sezzzzzzzzz]

Sorry for the OP with no idea given, i am trying to clean the house in between putting on the little red bastard , ELMO and keeping Tilly happy as the Outlaws are coming over this afternoon. It is them that puts the most pressure on me to get her using the toilet. Its starting to make me feel like a crap mum.

Last summer i first tried to TT, but she hadnt yet realised what wee's and poos were, so i left it be until early this summer. she knows now that she is doing pee's or poos, but doesnt tell me until after. She then had a mistake on "Nanna's bed" and that seems to have scared her off... If i dont put a nappy on her now she has a panic attack.

It's honestly best to just wait until they're ready. If they're not ready then it could just drag out over months with no success... if they are ready it's usually a much easier and quicker process.

I first tried when my son was 2 and it was a nightmare. I then waited until he was 3 1/2 and he had it all sorted out within a week.

Don't go buying the 'nappy training pants' either, they're just more expensive and uncomfortable versions of nappies.

Stairway to the toilet is another one to try... you can buy books for them about going to the toilet as well. Books near the toilet is useful for when they want to sit for a while,if you're using a potty, sit it in front of the TV (probably a terrible parenting strategy, but they usually stay).

I have to admit. My sons daycare did most of the work cause he was there 5 days a week at the time.

I agree with you 100% on the nappy pants, she continues to pee herself and tell me afterwards.

firstly mum and dad have to relax about the whole thing kids feed of emotions they absorb them like a sponge.when your little one happens to go in a nappy or floor or anywhere else but toilet don't make a big deal out of it just clean up your little one like there was nothing to it dont even try to explain to them what there supposed to do,dont make a fuss what so ever, by simple obsevation you will know when they are about to go some of the time that's when you try to get them to the toilet and when they finally do go that's when you make a big deal sing dance, call everyone else to have a look,dont even flush untill the other half comes home from work so your little one can show them...

I am very relaxed about it, its just everyone else telling me she should be in undies now that makes me irate, i realise she will do it eventually but as above people are making me feel like a loser... we m,ake a big deal of it if she even sits on the loo! lol

How old is the little one? With my daughter it was constant reminders, enforced toilet time and changing wet clothes. It didn't take too long for her to realise when she needed the toilet for either motion.

she is 3 beard. i have no probs changing a hundred wet outfits a day, she has plenty of clothes, lol.

I just posted in the 'hijacked' thread But basically she will make the change when she is ready, you can keep trying positive reinforcement but at the end of the day, its her call. She wont start school still in nappies though, so rest assured, it will happen!

Thanks Bel and everyone else! sosme days I dunno what i would do without my aps friends!

 

[Dragonwolf]

... PLEASE HELP!!! SICK OF NAPPIES!!!

LMAO - I just realised... the ages of my minis in care was such that I only changed about 6 nappies a day UNTIL 3 weeks ago when I had a change of mini-peeps and now I average 24 to 30. No wonder my hands are like sandpaper and I have no olfactory senses left.

 

[Nighthawk]

My sister had the same problem with her boys' maternal grandmother. Her eldest showed interest quite early, the other woman stepped in and put the pressure on (like he was doing 'tricks'), next thing you know he's quite put off the whole idea and my sis is set back a couple of years. Gah it's so frustrating for you!
Have you spoken to the pressure people about it? Maybe just gently let them know that they're not helping by pressuring you or your daughter, and let them know how they can help?

 

[Sezzzzzzzzz]

How old is your little one NTLS?

The other posters have the right idea though - anything before 2yrs old is mostly "timing", children all develop at their own pace and when the concept clicks in their head it'll be all stations go.
Here's some ideas from me (who does this day in day out lol)
- Summer is the best time to try.
- make sure they are ready - removing clothing, indicating wetness or soil, verbalising. she still doesnt tell me until after???
- try to be sure they understand at least some of the concept.
- encourage but don't make it into too much of a reward system (minis will fleece you if they can lol)
- make the toilet experience pleasant and calm but not "over the top" exciting (I know it is frustrating)
- make the nappy change as boring as possible - no conversation, little eye contact, quickly over. I have found that if they're seeking attention/interaction/ one on one time then nappy time can be a great opportunity so remove the incentive. what a great idea!! hadnt thought of that!
- replace the attention/interaction/one on one with another non training activity.
- role model (as embarrassing as that may be)She's always in the loo with me for this precise reason!!! bit embarrassing when she finds tampons and says look mice mummy!!!

Good luck and like Bel said.... nobody started school in nappies.

Thank you! there is some great ideas in there!

 

[Dragonwolf]

NTLS (yes I abbreviated your name - apologies) - don't give a flying thought what anyone else thinks. You're doing the right thing by your little one and thaat is ALL that matters.
I had a little girl here who has only just toilet trained and she is nearly 4 - parents and I have no idea why, no physical or emotional reasons found, she just wasn't ready.

 

[Sezzzzzzzzz]

My sister had the same problem with her boys' maternal grandmother. Her eldest showed interest quite early, the other woman stepped in and put the pressure on (like he was doing 'tricks'), next thing you know he's quite put off the whole idea and my sis is set back a couple of years. Gah it's so frustrating for you!
Have you spoken to the pressure people about it? Maybe just gently let them know that they're not helping by pressuring you or your daughter, and let them know how they can help?

UM YES!! LMAO! i got drunk the other week and told her she makes me feel like a bad mother and a piece of crap!!!

 

[Nighthawk]

LMAO - I just realised... the ages of my minis in care was such that I only changed about 6 nappies a day UNTIL 3 weeks ago when I had a change of mini-peeps and now I average 24 to 30. No wonder my hands are like sandpaper and I have no olfactory senses left.

I've been changing crappy nappies for almost five years over 3 kids now... :|
Why did I have them so close together again? Oh yeah... playing together 'n' phases over when they're over 'n' stuff 'n' yeah. Where am I again?

 

[Dragonwolf]

ROTFLMAO @ mice.
Yeah... I have a couple who tell me after - it's just part of the process..... all good things come to those who wait.

 

[Sezzzzzzzzz]

NTLS (yes I abbreviated your name - apologies) - don't give a flying @#%@ what anyone else thinks. You're doing the right thing by your little one and thaat is ALL that matters.
I had a little girl here who has only just toilet trained and she is nearly 4 - parents and I have no idea why, no physical or emotional reasons found, she just wasn't ready.

i really do try not to. I give off this impression that i am a tough *** biatch, but in reality I am a big softy, who worry's too much what other people think.. It doesnt help that my mum is 1000k's away so i really depend on his mum for the motherly moments... Im luckiy that shes most of the time an amazing MIL.

 

[Nighthawk]

UM YES!! LMAO! i got drunk the other week and told her she makes me feel like a bad mother and a piece of crap!!!

Suck for the sentiment in it, but gold. Absolute gold LMAO!
Personally I reckon I won in-law lotto, but my sister got the crappy end of the stick.

 

[Sezzzzzzzzz]

ROTFLMAO @ mice.
Yeah... I have a couple who tell me after - it's just part of the process..... all good things come to those who wait.

I didnt know what else to tell her! LOL'S

NTLS (yes I abbreviated your name - apologies) -

hahaha, all good, gotta find something else that isnt so long!!

 

[Skelhorn]

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hahaha remember patience
Naked time is the best. My partner Seriously does not remove her eyes off our little one when its naked time, and thats how it all started. Follow them like a hawk, have the potty close by, and as soon as you see a change or drop of liquid grab them and chuck them straight on the potty...EVEN IF THEY HAVE ALREADY PEEEEED that way they will distinguish what is meant to happen My little one has only had naked time properly for the last 2 days and today she has gone to the potty 3 times by herself already-I'm working...receiving txt's from the partner. hang in there, as everyone has said, EVerY ChIlD iS 100% DiffErEnt yep yep

 

[Sezzzzzzzzz]

hahaha remember patience
Naked time is the best. My partner Seriously does not remove her eyes off our little one when its naked time, and thats how it all started. Follow them like a hawk, have the potty close by, and as soon as you see a change or drop of liquid grab them and chuck them straight on the potty...EVEN IF THEY HAVE ALREADY PEEEEED that way they will distinguish what is meant to happen My little one has only had naked time properly for the last 2 days and today she has gone to the potty 3 times by herself already-I'm working...receiving txt's from the partner. hang in there, as everyone has said, EVerY ChIlD iS 100% DiffErEnt yep yep

Thanks hun! if nothing else this thread has taught me I AM NOT A BAD MUM!!!!