People inviting themselves to see your reps

[Fantazmic]

Ok

Im going to have a rant....a friend of mine....well I havent spoken to her in about 12 months.....turns up today on my doorstep unannounced....first thing in the morning.....well 8:30 am......I was asleep and she woke me up.

Anyway she comes in and normally Im ok with seeing her...but I think I was in a bad mood from being woken up so early on my day off.....so then she chews my ear off for 2 hours about all her problems not even stopping to draw breath....even while she had a hold of Alvin my Jungle Carpet Python. She didnt even ask me how I was or how my hubby and the boys were......to be honest it gave me he pip especially as i work as a counsellor and although I love my job I do listen to people problems all day...sometimes for 6 hours a day.....and sometimes it would be nice if a friend I havent seen for ages asked me how I was.

So then she announces that Fred and Jo and God knows who else would love to see my snakes and she is going to bring them over to see them...not would it be Ok to come and see them but I am going to bring them over.

Well I had a bit of a meltdown....and told her that I dont tell everyone about my snakes...that if they came to see them that I would have to have an assurance from them that they wouldnt tell anyone about where they saw the snakes or in fact that they had seen them because although your friend might be ok its the friend they tell and then the friend after that and my snakes then could get stolen etc etc.

So she looks at me like I'm crazy and says oh Fred would just say he saw some snakes I dont think he'd say where he saw them

I had a bit of a meltdown.....

I mean how dare she just announce she is going to bring these people to see my snakes without even asking me if it is OK...and these are people I dont even know and would normally never meet. My house is not a public zoo and I am not a public zookeeper !!! AND I am sick of people thinking that because I am a psychologist that I dont need anyone to ask me how I am..that I am somehow some sort of sponge that just listenes to other peoples problems adnauseum....and that I dont need my sleep on my day off....

OK end of rant.....and thanks in advance I know you all understand EXACTLY what I am talking about !!


Elizabeth

 

[Vixen]

Completely understand, and that was very rude of her on so many levels. I've had people show up randomly and I am not very impressed, especially when they keep reptiles themselves as I am very strict about quarantine. Needless to say they don't get to see anything, hopefully they start to get the point!

Working as a counseler must be trying even at the best of times, let alone having to listen to 'friends' that you haven't even seen in a long time.

 

[Wild~Touch]

Go for it Elizabeth I understand completely

It may seem rude (too bad) but I tell people to visit Australia Zoo if they want to see reptiles as my house is not a free zoo

Grouchy old thing now and I'm lovin it

 

[Fantazmic]

Ive actually decided I need to be busy next time she comes over.....im going to tell her I am on my way out the door as I have to go to work or something and not let her in......wont be long and we will have our fences and security system in place and she will ahve to buzz me from the street.......I just dont need the agravation in my life

 

[Wild~Touch]

I've got a very protective dog so not many get past the gate

 

[abnrmal91]

Golden rule is people are douche bags. I hate arrogant people like that. I try to keep it to a minimum what people know about what I keep. I can understand your well founded rant. Plus I couldn't be a counsellor not nearly patient enough. Sorry to those that are depressives or bi-polar but they really frustrate me. I have lived with people who have one or both for my whole life (they just makes me angry) just my little frustrated rant on the end.

 

[FAY]

I have found these days that a lot of people are just rude ( a lot aren't either). They think it is their god given right to invite themselves in and look at your animals. And in the last ten years I have never met so many people that the world evolves around them. Everything is about them and they are the only ones that matter. hehe my rant.

 

[Fantazmic]

hi abnrmal91
I do have clients that drive me a bit spare but usually they dont stay long...anyone with mental illness I refer on for assessment....as I dont diagnose.....and the rest are good....the best thing is when people get to a realy good place and go off and live their life and then 6 months later you get a call to say that want to come back and see you again for a top up....thats really nice......the hardest is when they come back and their situation is worse.....that is really hard to see them more unwell and stressed. But I love the work and I wouldnt do it unless i did....but I do need to make sure I look after myself and rest......

 

[chase77]

I found people seem to be getting ruder and ruder nowadays. I figure it goes hand in hand with a lack of respect in society in general.

Anyways, the important question is how are you Elizabeth?

 

[maddog-1979]

hi Elizabeth.

so how are you today?

 

[Fantazmic]

I am feeling much better now thank you !!!! I knew you'd all understand !!

 

[maddog-1979]

i have had the same happen in the past too. right now i'm trying to figure out the best way to sell my soon to hatch beardie hatchlings , in the past it was no problem to have people around to pick out a baby, but i now have a bigger collection and dont really want to share it with random's from the internets coming into my home. might have have to do some macca's carpark jobs, although iv'e recently been told thats frowned upon by the authorities.....

 

[Fantazmic]

maybe take lots of piccies and do it via the internet......although theproblem is then do you deliver them....or still ahve to go to the maccas carpark anyway to deliver the animal ?

 

[mysnakesau]

It is good that you were able to stand up to her like you. Unlike me I tend to let ppl walk over me, but I can understand where you are coming from. You haven't seen her for a year, then suddenly she waltzes in like its her right to do so. That is rude and she needs to be told that. And why can't the carer be cared for too.

And friends of friends can come back and haunt you. Doesn't matter what she says, she doesn't know what others will or won't do. I had a complete stranger approach me at work and tell me he knows where I live and that I have snakes. There is only one person that could have come from - someone who I thought was a friend, but has turned out to be the biggest rip off merchant out - well not the biggest, but as far as I am concerned once you're a rip off merchant, doesn't matter how small, its a big deal to the person being ripped off. So now I live with constant worry that my rip off merchant of a friend could send someone to my place to pinch my animals. I don't have anything worth pinching, but druggos don't see things that way. Anything works for a trade. One stole a $600 puppy from my pet shop and traded him for heroin. That's my rant to add to your rant

Don't let her drive you nuts Elizabeth. Ppl like that aren't worth the bother.

 

[Nighthawk]

I take it then she's not the kind of person who would listen if you told her she crossed the line bigtime?
Bloody rude of her though, I totally agree. You don't invite your mates over to someone else's house to check out their stamp collection; why would it be any different for snakes?
I understand how frustrating it is to be the brunt of everyone else's bad day too. The worst one that happened to me was when I miscarried a while ago, called a friend to vent, and ended up listening to how bad her day was for half an hour, then "oh, I've gotta go."
People tend to forget that strong people are still human, and could probably do with a hug and an ear once in a while as well.

 

[Vixen]

might have have to do some macca's carpark jobs, although iv'e recently been told thats frowned upon by the authorities.....

They don't need to know.

 

[woody101]

I just sold my Albino female Darwin at a Zaraffers Coffee shop in the carpark even had the snake out on the boot of the car while the guy checked her out and did the paper work

 

[grannieannie]

I just say....no sorry it's not a good time...and I'll let you know when it might be sometime in the future. There are little kids in my street, and I know they're only kids, but they sometimes ask if they can come in and hold my stimmie and I just say no....he doesn't like to be looked at and held very often....too bad if they don't like it. If they turn up to the door I just don't let them in....sorry, this isn't a good time for me...and close the door !!!

 

[Smithers]

I would have said to her,...Now that'll be $300 in total thanks I'll ring you for the next session.

 

[MathewB]

I would have said to her,...Now that'll be $300 in total thanks I'll ring you for the next session.

I reckon she could get $350 at least.

And if I was in the position you were I would've smacked the Venter across face after half an hour