rant about the opposite gender

[FAY]

A great guy will come along when you least expect it.
I agree with the member who said just go out and enjoy your life and not worry about relationships at your age.
There is plenty of time for relationships down the track.....why complicate your life now!

If you haven't noticed most 'boys' are just happy to hang out with their mates at your age...so you should do the same.

 

[fritzi2009]

Just so you know, i'm a guy and using my partners account.

Maybe you're going about this the wrong way. Maybe instead of looking for a guy, live your life, have some fun! 17 is a bit young to be worrying about relationships.. Be yourself and stop looking for 'the One'. Learn from your mistakes, build a bridge and get over it.

Also, guys are still very primitive animals, with most of their basic instincts hardwired which most won't grow out of til they're 30 (I admit i'm guilty of succumbing to my inner animal lol but a clip in the ear fixes it up).

I'm not "looking for a guy" I've just noticed through my experiences that most guys I know are like this But who can blame the, they do have a much smaller brain than us women

 

[fritzi2009]

i like how this thread didn't turn into one big arguement for once -.-

 

[SamNabz]

lol ... its just like a woman to post such a complaint, typical... kidding

you're 17 fritz....only choices are to go for an older guy, who will PROBABLY respect you more and want to get to know you instead of just wanting something good to look at...or you can be a normal teenager who's "fun phase" is just begininning (i.e. almost legal to club/drink etc.) and date guys your own age who are only after one thing there's pretty much no other way around it...unless there's some guy who's grown up with you and been to all your schools and is obsessed with you and loves you for you?!
......but that would just be weird

 

[miss2]

i have big boobs and blonde hair.... i get my manicure and pedicure done on a fortnightly basis, i spend way to much money on clothes and i LOVE going out.
i understand what your saying but not all girls who look like that are like that. people look at me and think im the biggest girlie girl in the world, BUT - I LOve fishing, i round up cattle, i love to be able to have an intelligent argument / conversation, i studied, i have a strong intrest and views in animals and would never put them aside for anyone.... maybe the sterotype isnt always right.

 

[redbellybite]

awwwww if only that was all you have to worry about in life ,IMMMMMATURITY ....

 

[reptilefan95]

miss2 i dont think she was reffering to every single blond on the planet..... well i know i a big fat blond guy with man boobs how come no one stares at him???

seriously though im only 14 and ive only really ever had one girlfriend, for 2 years (yea i know doesnt say much) but i had to move from europe and back to australia so we "drifted" apart it really sucked... im sure that you will find a guy who also wants long deep and meaningful relationships, but untill then stick to underage drinking

 

[Chris1]

haha, doesnt stop with the teens,......men eh, !

i am starting to get really sick of guys (mainly teenage idiots with no brains and big egos) who only care about
a) themselves
b) blonde hair big boobed girls who have no respect for themselves (not saying that if you have blonde hair and big boobs that you aren't a good person, but you all know the type im talking about....)
c) only caring about looks not personality

i can understand why some people stay single forever ! :evil: sorry im just ranting because im so sick of getting flamed at everytime i don't "dye my hair bleach blonde" or show of my lady assests every time i leave my house. god forbid i act smart once in a while or show that i have some potential to be more than a dimwitted attention seeking brat.
im sorry to all the decent guys out there, but im starting to think some of us girls are better off alone :shock:
& im not saying all men are like this so don't start having a go. This thread should be fun :|

 

[waruikazi]

Righto this is cut and pasted form another thread a made a few months ago. I recon it will give you a bit of a laugh and help you in the future with relationships with anyone!

Communication is a Tricky Business!

The fine art of talking, getting your message heard and understood as well as converted into some form of action by another human being is an amazinglly tricky business.

What makes it even murkier is that it often seems that men and women speak entirely different languages. The brains of boys and girls are reasonably similar but the way they use languages is poles apart!

While there are always exceptions and generalisations, it is useful to know how most men and most women use language. As we go through these differences it will become clear that the fact that most relationships work is nothing short of miraculous!

Men are chasers and women are choosers. This is reflected in the way they talk to one another. Men use talk to gain attention and status, to be the chosen one. Women use conversations to connecct and maintain relationships. They are vigilant to shifts in nuances and tones. Females are well adapted to spot mens lies, brags and exagerations.

For men, language is about status and independance. Men are highly vigilant for shifts in respect. The jostling and jockying in male conversations is designed to answer the question "Do you respect me?" Jokes stories and pranks are important to boys and men because they allow them to be centre stage and gain attention. It is extremely rare to see a woman at a BBQ call a few of the gals over and start sharing a joke ot the group.

For women, the art of conversation is about intimacy and connection. Behind much of their talking is the questions "Do you like me?" and "am i a part of your group?" To build this connection through conversation many women use discussions to emphasise similarity. For example "Oh yes i've had that problem too!"

Men and women talk abo-ut problems differently too. Women use problems to build similarity and closeness. If two women have a similar problem they are appear to be alike and must be friends. Men look at problems as things to be minimised or solved. They might share problems or frustrations but will often bond over minimalising or solving them.

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Girl Chat/ Boy Chat

Girls speak about 2-3 times more words a day than boys. By 20 months of age a girls vocabulary is 3 times greater than a boys.

In schools girls play games in which everyone gets a turn. Girls take turns 20 times more often than boys. Boys play games in which there are winners and losers.

Girls often form close knit cliques with secret rules. They are on the phone with the door shut. Gossiping becomes a favourite activity and helps them cope with stresses as they feel they are not alone.

Girls react to relationship distancing, boys react to challenges to their authority.

Men mainly use vasopressin for bonding and relationships while women use oxytocin and estrogen. Vasopressin increases attention, protectiveness and tracking in men.

This will be one of the most useful hints you boys will ever get so listen up!!!
Oxcytocin is released in girls and women even with a 20 second hug-sealing the bond with the hugger and trust. Boys need to be touched 2-3 times as much as girls to attain the same level of oxytocin.

 

[waruikazi]

Advice for parents speaking to sons

* Use unadultered prais; do not qualify (eg you did that well but you could do better). Don't add ideas or suggestions, just praise.

* Let him know you love and respect him- tell him and then tell him again. Keep telling him!

* Give options and choices wherevere possible.

* Boys are mor elikely to have problems expressing feelings and be more liable to misinterpretations. Be direct. Be firm. Be fair and if you can be funny.

* Always incoorporate wait time- so if you want something done by 5pm start suggesting it about 2 hours before and ue hit and run reminders.

* Boys are less resilient than girls and may be more romantic. Hurts run deep. Don't hover around them using alot of words but stay near by and be caring.

* Boys like to score! Competition is fun!

* More acne is a clue that androgen levels are high. Asssosciated with less empathy and more grumpiness. Therefore this may not be a good time to talk about feelings.

* Boys are often more communicative when horizontal- bedtime can be a good time for a chat.

 

[waruikazi]

Advice for parents speaking to daughters

* Drama, drama, drama! The female brain loves it! Expect it and don't think you can avoid any of it!

* Don't beleive everything they say in arguments. As they are often more verbal than boys they can often say things that are more hurtful.

* Sometimes listening and reassuring is enough.

* Let them know you love them and suggest gently how they may be even more loved by them.

* In the first two weeks of their cycle, the high octane hormone estrogen fuels obsessions, looking at themsleves in the mirror, chattiness, off the wall ideas and privacy paranoia.

* In the last two weeks of her cycle, progesterone takes over. Prgesterone is the Great Garbo of the hormons world and results in increased irritability and wanting to be alone.

* These hormones come in waves but in the progesterone phase if some stress occurs you often get meltdowns including yelling and slamming doors. Learn the patterns.

* Know her friends as well as you can. They will know her secrets and deals can always be struck if need be.

 

[waruikazi]

Advice for men speaking to women and girls
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* Listen to understand before suggesting anythingat all. When in doubt DO NOT suggest anything at all!

* Girls think if i just get 'it' right I'll get the reaction i want. If i get 'it' right he will love me. If you can gently show them that what they can do, anxiety lessens and affection grows.

*If a partner stops responding to a woman, she thinks he is distancing or she has done something wrong and they may panic that he is leaving. If you are feeling unresponsive or needing solo time explain that you are feeling that way.

* Men don't read sadness in women well. Ask for details, who, what, where, when and how do you feel about that? Do not dismiss with a perfunctory 'it will be alright' or 'don't worry about it!'

*Disclose. Use personal examples. If you don't have any make them up!

*Details are important- earrings are not randomly selected! Haircuts are for noticing.

* 20 second hugging increases oxytocin in women.

* Interdependance does not threaten freedom.

* In arguments don't defend yourself. Listen carefully for as long as it takes and apologise... even if you don't mean it.

 

[waruikazi]

And here is the one that i think will help you the most darling!

Advice for women speaking to men- last one lol

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* Ask them for advice and suggestions. Under no circumstances feel no obligation to implement any of it!

* Try to see silence as contentment. Men are often quiestest when they are at their happiest.

* Talk about activities rather than feelings or "the relationship."

* Use data rather than personal anecdotes.

* Mention details but don't ask for them (they wont have them!)

* Know that you will never truly understand the friendly world of rivalry and contest amongst boys and men.

* Remember men and boys need 2 to 3 times as much touch as girls to acheive the same oxytocin level gains.

* Boys are fidgety and communicate in short bursts. Use short sharp messages. Don't flood them with words or questions.

* Know that conflict and difference do not threaten intimacy.

* Know that watching football is important and it is NEVER an opportunity to talk about feelings!

These were taken from notes of a lecture by Andrew Fuller who is an internationally recognised psychologist in the feild of teenage development. Was easily the best lecture i've ever been too.

 

[Sturdy]

At the risk of getting another infraction, i WAS going to post a picture of that bloke that locked up that girl in a basement for X amount of years with a caption in the picture saying "Single and looking for long term relationship"
BUT
i wont.... and here is another question for you...
you say that all guys are going for the trophy girls....
But then again... what about the nerdy guys.... they will jump for anything that moves...

 

[miss2]

ok please DONT get me wrong im not trying to be bi*chy here at all and i dont want to sound mean but.... the thing that gets me is when i c a very VERY unfourtunate looking girl and there engaged or in a relationship - a girl i work with is the most annoying, funky looking, bad personality whingy red headed thing, and shes engaged... im like *** she has a bf and i have been single for nearly a year now... then my friend pointed out its about standards - cant even imagine what he looks like LOL
sorry for going a wee bit off topic and hope no one is offended by this

 

[Shinglegirl]

Just live your life sweety, not all men are bad you will find the right one, one day, but the fact is your 17 and you have a long road ahead of you, if your annoyed about boys now wait until you get older. lol. One thing i will say is that dont judge all men the same when one day you get hurt because they arnt trust me i know. Just live your life for you, be your best friend and love yourself first. If you do that youll be fine and people will love you for you not what you look like.
I to have blonde hair and boobs, i get judged all the time (sadly especially from women) and men just think im easy, fact is im not i study vet nursing and beauty therapy and have a wide knowledge on most topics. Never judge a book by its cover peeps.

 

[TahneeMaree]

I can tell you from experience in High School and the few years in tafe that having having blonde hair and boobs NEVER got me looked (maybe it did? though I was never aproached) at, wasn't until I started working and becoming more confident in myself that I started gaining interest from people... I guess it's the package of personality and the blonde and boobs?

Edit: sorry I lie I did have a bf in my last bit of TAFE, he was nuts though said he liked me for my bum and wanted me to colour my hair... weird

 

[Reptile_Boy]

c) only caring about looks not personality

That can be said about alot of teenage girls. i hate girls who have no respect for them selfs and sleep around with any guy they can get there hands on. i also hate girls who for example if i like a girl there friends dont want me to go out with them so they make stuff up so there friend wont like go out with me. that is one thing i hate :evil:. i mean fair enough every one has there opinions about other people but making stuf up just so that there firend wont date that guy but jeez let them judge them not make every decision for them.

 

[Reptile_Boy]

Also girls who date guys that are heaps older than them for example a girl who is 15 dating a 22 year old

 

[moosenoose]

You don't wear stilettos on the beach do you?? That might be a bit of a give-away